Eye-Opening Advice on a Blackboard Sign: Why Givers Need to Set Limits

Jaxon Wildwood

Updated Wednesday, June 26, 2024 at 12:00 AM CDT

In a simple yet profound image, a blackboard-style sign placed outdoors delivers a crucial message: "IF YOU'RE A GIVER, REMEMBER TO LEARN YOUR LIMITS - BECAUSE THE TAKERS DON'T HAVE ANY." This thought-provoking statement, written in bold white text, has resonated with many, as evidenced by the wave of reactions it has sparked.

Positioned on a grassy or hay-covered surface, the sign stands out with its clear message, framed by a sepia or monochromatic filter that adds a nostalgic feel to the scene. A dark-colored car is parked in the background, its wheels prominently in view, while some indistinct activity or people can be seen around, though the focus remains on the sign.

User comments reflect the deep impact of this advice. One user noted, "Now that may be the truest thing we read all day," while another commented, "Makes me think of those vids of Americans just cleaning tables during trick or treating."

For those struggling with setting boundaries, this message hits home. A commenter shared, "This is timely for me. I’m currently trying to set boundaries with a business partner who is definitely a taker with no limits." Another user remarked, "Definitely could have used this advice earlier in the year. I have a bad habit of trying to help everyone and then next thing I know I'm being taken advantage of and having a full mental health crisis."

The image also resonates with those who have learned the hard way. One individual shared their experience, saying, "Being a giver can turn you toxic. I give my wife backrubs almost every night to help her sleep. After doing this for years, I wondered how often my wife does that for me. I figured out it was a ratio of about 1000 to 1. I ended up going down a rabbit hole of being very hurt and angry at how indifferent she was to my needs. I brought it up with her a couple times, but nothing changed. So, I got even more angry. Then I realized how to solve it. And just stopped doing it. Much happier now."

Another poignant story comes from a user who said, "After struggling with my feelings surrounding it, I finally stepped down at work because the company refused to give (the basics, let alone anything else), and only took. I'm finally free and it was the best decision. Absolutely 0 regret."

This image and its message remind everyone of the importance of self-care and setting personal limits. It serves as a powerful reminder: "Free yourself. You only have 1 life."

The blackboard sign's message is a wake-up call for givers everywhere. It's a reminder that while generosity is a virtue, it should never come at the expense of one's well-being.

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Top Comments from Imgur

swedeonamoose

Makes me think of those vids of Americans just cleaning tables during trick or treating.

GrumpyOldMan55

Now that may be the truest thing we read all day.

tibby

It's way too early to be called out like this. Fully appropriately, though, mind you. Welp, off to a day of not remembering my limits!

keys79

This is timely for me. I’m currently trying to set boundaries with a business partner who is definitely a taker with no limits.

jstelly3

Definitely could have used this advice earlier in the year. I have a bad habit of trying to help everyone and then next thing I know I'm being taken advantage of and having a full b******ntal health crisis. Now I'm one minor inconvenience away from earning a grippy sock vacation! Yay!

thebonesofmyancestors

Being a giver can turn you toxic. Example. I give my wife backrubs almost every night to help her sleep. After doing this for years, I wondered how often my wife does that for me. I figured out it was a ratio of about 1000 to 1. I ended up going down a rabbit hole of being very hurt and angry at how indifferent she was to my needs. I brought it up with her a couple times, but nothing changed. So, I got even more angry. Then I realized how to solve it. And just stopped doing it. Much happier now.

Ebo352

I still remember the moment I finally stopped trying to save everyone and became comfortable saying no. Best skill I ever developed

spacepig42

Like a magpie with memory loss

ASquirrelNamedLloyd

God, they do omg

too8bit2quit

Ain't that the f***ing truth

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