The Lasting Impact of Hurtful Words: A Personal Story from High School

Noah Silverbrook

Updated Thursday, September 19, 2024 at 12:00 AM CDT

In a heartfelt video on Imgur titled "Looking at you Imgurians," a woman shares a poignant story from her high school years. Reflecting on a hurtful comment made by a boy when she was just 14, she recounts how he told her she looked like a stripper in her boots. This remark left her embarrassed and self-conscious, leading her to stop wearing the boots she had eagerly asked for as a Christmas gift.

Years later, as an adult, she found herself hesitating to buy a similar pair of boots on sale, questioning if they would still make her look like a stripper. This self-doubt, she realized, was a lingering effect of that long-ago comment. The story underscores a powerful message: words have a lasting impact, and thoughtless remarks can stick with someone far longer than intended.

The video has sparked a flurry of reactions from the Imgur community, with many users sharing their own experiences of how hurtful comments have affected them. One user humorously questioned, "How did a 14-year-old know what a stripper looks like? Is his mom still single?" Another suggested a form of poetic justice: "Go find that guy from HS. Show him how great you look in your new boots. Kick him in the a**."

Others reflected on their own high school experiences. One man admitted that much of what he said in high school was mindless and should not have been taken seriously. Another shared a similar story about his wife, who refuses to wear button-up shirts because of a negative comment made by a girl in second grade.

There was also a touch of irony noted by some users, with one pointing out, "A bit ironic to complain about being called a stripper just as she starts taking her clothes off tho, innit." This comment, though intended as a joke, was met with mixed reactions.

Several other users shared their own painful memories. One woman recalled being called "flat like a board" at 14, a comment that still affects her self-esteem at 41. Another user expressed how a comment about their calves in middle school led to a lifelong discomfort with wearing shorts.

The video and subsequent discussion highlight the importance of being mindful of our words, especially online where anonymity can sometimes lead to cruelty. As one user eloquently put it, "The axe forgets but the tree does indeed remember."

The story serves as a poignant reminder to think before speaking and to consider the potential long-term impact of our words on others.

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Top Comments from Imgur

RainierCamino

Two questions: 1) How did a 14 year old know what a stripper looks like? 2) Is his mom still single?

glovelyday

Go find that guy from HS. Show him how great you look in your new boots. Kick him in the a**.

ChronicLogical

A bit ironic to complain about being called a stripper just as she starts taking her clothes off tho, innit. It's a joke. Downvote all you want.

trinxter

I remember being a boy in high school. Much of what came out of my mouth was completely mindless and not to be ever taken seriously.

Fortherea

F***er of a classmate told 14-yr-old me that I was flat like a board. I was self-conscious about being a late bloomer anyway. I’m 41 now and still despise him for it.

Littleug

I was honestly half expecting her to turn around and say something like: "Which is funny, because I actually AM a stripper now and it turns out I enjoy my work - and I still love my boots!"

gotigs

My wife refuses to wear button up shirts because a girl told her in second grade that she looked bad in them.

Bex316

That sweater is f***ing adorable!

nocomments14

A boy in hs called me a butter face. It's been 18 years and I still think of that.

RunawaySpoons

Aged 9 (year 5, in England) a girl in my class made a comment about my bottom and I was so embarrassed I made sure all my trousers were baggy thereafter, until my mid-20s. Then thankfully one time I noticed in the mirror how silly they looked being baggy, and wore normal-fitting ones thereafter. But ~15 years, man. I'm just grateful it was such a minor thing in the overall picture. The axe forgets but the tree does indeed remember.

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