The Life-Saving Tip Everyone Should Know: Scream "I Don't Know You" to Survive an Attack

Riley Sundew

Updated Saturday, July 20, 2024 at 12:00 AM CDT

In a thought-provoking image shared on Imgur, a young woman with long, partially wavy blonde hair is seen in a casual indoor setting, perhaps a kitchen or dining area. The natural light filters through the half-drawn blinds, casting a gentle glow on the room's furniture, including a dining table with chairs, a plate, and a bowl. The woman has a neutral, slightly concerned expression on her face. Superimposed over the image in white capital letters with black outlines is a crucial message: "My mind when I found out the best way to survive an attack in public is to scream that you DO NOT KNOW YOUR ATTACKER. Otherwise, people will assume it’s a domestic dispute and they won’t intervene even if your life is in danger."

This image has sparked vigorous discussions among users, shedding light on a vital self-defense tactic that could potentially save lives. Several insightful comments emphasize the importance of making it unequivocally clear that the victim does not know their attacker to prompt immediate help from bystanders.

One user pointed out the grim reality: "Which f***ing sucks because you're more likely to be murdered by someone you know." This comment underscores the tragic frequency of violence perpetrated by acquaintances or loved ones.

Another user shared a personal anecdote, "When I was 16, I intervened in a couple's fight at a flea market. The man slapped his girlfriend, and no one reacted. I then punched him and challenged him to fight me instead. This incident highlighted the prevalence of domestic violence." This story not only highlights the prevalence of domestic violence but also the hesitation of bystanders to intervene.

The bystander effect, a psychological phenomenon where individuals are less likely to help a victim when other people are present, was also discussed. One commenter mentioned, "The bystander effect is a thing, and it really sucks that it is." This reinforces the need for clear, direct communication from victims to overcome this social inertia.

Another significant point raised was the effectiveness of designating a specific individual for help in a crowd. One user recalled, "I remember a study from years ago saying that the best way to get help in a crowd is to designate a person in particular 'You! Help me!' rather than just 'Help me!' The peer pressure forces the designated person to act."

The importance of clarity in seeking help cannot be overstated. As one comment advised, "You just need to make it really clear that you need help and this isn't 'normal' for your life. 'I don't know this person' is a good way to get it across, though."

The image and ensuing discussion serve as a powerful reminder of the critical importance of clear communication in life-threatening situations. The simple act of screaming "I don't know you" can break the bystander effect and compel immediate assistance, potentially saving lives. This invaluable piece of advice should be widely shared and remembered by all, as it could make a significant difference in a moment of crisis.

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Top Comments from Imgur

Currahee63

That’s my purse! I don’t know you!

vakler

Which f***ing sucks because you're more likely to be murdered by someone you know.

pastastructure

Sadly, this sounds like truth. I've seen too many situations where couples loudly accuse each other of terrible things to feel comfortable stepping in when I don't know those involved. The statement "I don't don't this person, I'm under attack. Please help." would get my help 100% of the time.

QuitLookinAtMineAim

Yep. I might hesitate if it's not 1000% clear what's going on. If a woman (or anyone) makes it clear that they want/need outside help immediately and I can do something, I will. Otherwise I'm taking a significant risk on an uninformed assumption unless I see very clear need for my intervention. Yelling "I don't know you, help me! " puts us all on the same page and I can justify some...ahem...rather serious intervention.

ProbablyNotASuitOfPlatypuses

Makes sense. Up voting for awareness, never know who it might help out a bad spot

Thorfinn78

I remember a study from years ago saying that the best way to get help in a crowd is to designate a person in particular "You! Help me!" rather than just "Help me!" The peer pressure force the designated person to act.

Convallari

I've -actually- been attacked and lived in one of the most violent cities in the US. I've witnessed a lot of fights. When somebody's getting their a** beat out in public, most often, the cops get called. Whatever they're screaming, you can't tell what it is half the time. The best thing you can do is try to get away and RUN. Dip around corners. Lose them. Run to where there are more people. That's how I survived. The detective said that was the best thing I could've done.

SimonDesrosiers

When I was 16, I intervened in a couple's fight at a flea market. The man slapped his girlfriend, and no one reacted. I then punched him and challenged him to fight me instead. This incident highlighted the prevalence of domestic violence. Only after my actions did others step in, showing the importance of speaking up in situations that would otherwise be ignored. My dad's words resonated with me, that a man should never hit a woman, and that walking away is always the option.

RobBobertyYT

You just need to make it really clear that you need help and this isn't "normal" for your life. "I don't know this person" is a good way to get it across, though. For every situation where somebody really needs help, there are hundreds of instances of couples screaming at each other, and if you get involved, it just leads to both of them screaming at you.

smellsmiketeenspirit

I intervened when it was a domestic dispute once. I was walking with at friend, took the chance and yelled "hey, is everything okay there ?", guy: "what, you never saw a couple having an argument ?", me, while the woman slipped away into a shop/bar (can't remember): "yeah but not like that". Then he left, since the woman was gone. It could have gone so much worse. Got lucky I could displayed the right amount of assertiveness. Curiously I am not sure I would instinctively react the same way if 1/

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